The Message from Dr. Sax is to raise your kids with clear expectations. Tell them often what is expected and let them know what the consequences will be. And then follow through. We expect you to do well in school – that is your job and it will set you up for the rest of your life. No, I wont be allowing you to live here rent-free when you graduate. No you cannot live in my basement at 30. We expect you to take care of your things – if you don’t, you will need to buy the replacement. We expect you to have respect for parents and teachers (that aren’t commie lunatics), and law enforcement. If you don’t, you’ll get a talking to, right there in front of people, and when you get home, you’re gonna wish you hadn’t acted like trash! We expect you to follow our rules – if you don’t, you’ll suffer the consequences and the punishment will hit you where it hurts.